I do remember that being very disheartening. During his sitdown with Sam Jones, the Miracle Workers star also opened up about using alcohol to cope with fame when he was a teen. I think that's a pressure as well. You suddenly start to feel, 'Man, if I am just feeling some human emotion of sadness, does that mean I'm doing this wrong?
Am I not good at being famous? The star's own unique experience helps him empathize with others who dealt with growing up in the spotlight. Stuff could be super crazy for him right now. Also, that would suck. That would be trash school … Famous people suck," she added. Half of it's horrible and half of it's unbelievably amazing and completely priceless,'" she said.
In , the supermodel revealed to Harper's Bazaar that her time in the spotlight has had a major impact on her circle of friends — and made her less willing to open up. There are people who understand that I love them and who know that when I get back to town I'm going to call them, but sometimes I can't call every day because I'm in weird places.
She continued: "I've lost a lot of friends because I'll get busy for a short period of time, and they're not reaching out, but if I don't reach out, then it's like I've changed. I'm good with [the friends] I've got. During a visit to the Howard Stern Show , the comedian confessed that going to the ultra-exclusive Met Gala "felt like punishment. Now married to Sabrina Dhowre, Elba confessed to Loaded in that his famous face made it hard to trust potential love interests.
Who is she? Jenner told Interview magazine that she's constantly feeling anxious about the unflattering things showing up in the media. I don't know why.
I have, like, a problem," she shared. My worst fear is waking up and finding something bad about me on the Internet. Before her marriage to Cooke Maroney, the Oscar-winner struggled to connect with eligible bachelors. I am lonely every Saturday night," she told Vogue. I know where it's coming from, I know they're trying to establish dominance, but it hurts my feelings. I'm just a girl who wants you to be nice to me.
I am straight as an arrow. I feel like I need to meet a guy, with all due respect, who has been living in Baghdad for five years who has no idea who I am. Being a celebrity definitely isn't a walk in the park. There are restrictions to this kind of fame. There are legions of people on Instagram alone with audiences of this size.
New platforms offer new speed. Some previous unknowns on TikTok, for example, have attracted millions of followers in a matter of weeks. This post will explore a lot of things. Chief among them will be answering the question: if you win the popularity game, what might you expect? I will also talk about some of the risks and downsides, which can be horrifying. My hope is that this post will help people better understand the wall their ladder is leaning against… before they spend years climbing towards the top.
Or, in a world of TikTok-like acceleration, before they let the genie out of the bottle without thinking it through. One could easily argue that the national exposure that accompanied The 4-Hour Workweek and later books was a necessary ingredient for:. For that, I owe every one of my readers and listeners a huge debt of gratitude.
But when you become famous, you end up with a hour job. But how could this be true? It seems like a farce. At the very least, it must be an exaggeration, right? You are showing a grave example of the White horseman to our children. Shame on you. Shame on you… Shame. And Wickedness… It is the most evil war on earth, the one for blood spectacle for those who would entertain by whoring themselves prostituting violence to those who seek and lust to watch inhumanity.
You are an evil one who has gained the world and lost your soul. What did I do or say that caused this? Was it in response to a how-to article on clubbing baby seals? Not quite. It was in response to my blog post highlighting the non-profit DonorsChoose. The explicit goal? To raise money for under-funded public school classrooms.
In the introduction, I happened to mention that the founder and CEO of DonorsChoose was my wrestling partner in high school. Was that a death threat? Was there anything I should do or could do about it? But I did know one thing: it was very scary and completely out of the blue. That week, I shared the above story with a female career blogger. At the time, our audiences were roughly the same size. This brings me to the topic of audience size and the metaphor of the tribe, the village, and the city.
Think back to your 5th-grade class. In my case, there were 20—30 kids. Was there anyone totally off the rails in your class? Next, think back to your freshman year in high school. In my case, there were a few hundred kids. Was there anyone volatile or unbalanced? I can think of at least a handful who were prone to violence and made me uneasy. There were fights. Some kids brought knives to school. There was even a kid rumored to enjoy torturing animals.
Keep in mind: this high school was in the same town as my elementary school. What changed? The sample size was larger. Flash forward to my life in July of , less than three months after the publication of my first book. In that short span of time, my monthly blog audience had exploded from a small group of friends 20—30? What do we know of Providence? Compared to the national average, Providence has an average rate of violent crime and a higher rate of property crime per , inhabitants.
In , there were 15 murders, down from 24 in In , Providence fared better regarding violent crime than most of its peer cities. Springfield, Massachusetts, has approximately 20, fewer residents than Providence but reported 15 murders in , the same number of homicides as Providence but a slightly higher rate per capita. You just need a big enough audience.
Think of yourself as the leader of a tribe or the mayor of a city. The averages will dictate that you get a certain number of crazies, con artists, extortionists, possible or actual murderers, and so on.
In fairness, we should also include a certain number of geniuses, a certain number of good Samaritans, and so on. To recap: the bigger the population, the more opportunities and problems you will have. You should still wonder: At any given time, how many of these people might go off of their meds?
And how many of the remaining folks will simply wake up on the wrong side of the bed today, feeling the need to lash out at someone? The answer will never be zero. Best to be aware in advance. Here be dragons…. Lest it appear otherwise, this is not intended to be a woe-is-me post.
Would I have listened to all these warnings in advance? Would it have changed my behavior? Perhaps not. The entire experience reminds me of the parable of the blind men and the elephant.
This is a parable that has been told across different cultures since at least the 1st millennium BCE: It is a story of a group of blind men, who have never come across an elephant before and who learn and conceptualize what the elephant is like by touching it.
They then describe the elephant based on their limited experience, and their descriptions of the elephant are different from each other. In some versions, they come to suspect that the other person is dishonest, and they come to blows. Before , I was the blind men. Must be nice! Instead, fame is likely to magnify all of your insecurities and exaggerate all of your fears. If you think you have problems that fame will fix, I implore you to work on the inside first.
At the very least, work on both in equal measure. Only now, along with disappointment, you will have the new challenges described in this post. I tend to think so. Does that mean no one should pursue the path of Great Fame or tempt the sirens of the Great Public? My intention is simply to shine light upon some of the hazards that such a journey entails.
The Tim Ferriss Show is one of the most popular podcasts in the world with more than million downloads. To listen to any of the past episodes for free, check out this page. Comment Rules: Remember what Fonzie was like? Have fun and thanks for adding to the conversation! Thanks to Brian Oberkirch for the inspiration. Due to all the trauma ive grown up with such as mental, physical abuse as well as consuming mainstream media there is this ugly desire within me to be famous as a way to somehow fix all my problems.
So thank you Tim for being so real with us so that i can be more real with myself — this article is enormously helpful. I am truly grateful for you and for the work that you do. I went to med school at UCLA in the s.
In those days there were a couple floors for the rich. They got private rooms, better food, and so on. The medical treatment was the same.
They were, on average, experiencing the same amount of suffering as the folks on the other floors, and they were dealing with it, on average, just about as well. My experience with these folks made me realize seeking fame was not what I wanted. It would not get me where I want to be in life. More freedom, in other words. Much better than being gawked at by strangers. Wow, you really snapped with this blog. This is such a powerful idea that I feel should be a Ted Talk given to young kids.
Our society is so fame driven, this type of writing gave me a new perspective. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I read this article during the Super Bowl it caught my attention that much. Thank you so much Tim! Thanks for the low down and for sharing your thoughts with us. I guess it does. Thanks for the reminder. I agree with Chris!
This should be another Ted Talk. This also goes for vulnerable young and often not so young! This post was absolutely compelling and scary on so many levels. You have been through a lot, Tim. My vote for turning this into a Ted Talk too…. A positive antidote to the trend that seems to be going around of getting famous at any cost. Thank you.
Great article! Thanks Tim for the reminder to be careful what we wish for! Really great post, Tim. I received my first threat of physical violence, had my property vandalized, and filed my first police report within three months of starting my first real blog.
But even though that may have been the worst of it so far , the drama never ends, and the negativity and negative side effects never cease. This was a fascinating read. No one talks about fame. Totally sucks that you have to deal with insane people. I was on a TV show last year and it was seen by millions. Perils of being a woman. The comments bothered me not because I internalized them but because my kids and family read them.
Thanks Tim, I remember going out to dinner years ago with Brian Wilson and some industry back ground people managers, publicity people from the label etc and realized that I NEVER wanted to be famous just happy to go out to a nice dinner with friends and have nobody bother me for pictures and autographs. The podcast taking most of the attention. So business wise you get a po box for all the official mail?
Cheers and keep it up! What an unexpected adventure. Boxes are helpful for mail and packages. If the entity you are receiving from does not ship to P. Box as the Unit Number. For example: J. Smith, Main Street, Unit If you were to start your writing career again, would you use a pen name for your book to protect your identity? Hi Tim, thanks so much for writing this blog. This is so helpful to know. Really grateful that you did become famous as I and so many people have gotten so much out of what you have offered to the world.
Your best blog of the ones I read. For whatever weird reason, my biggest fear in life is being sent to prison not that I am in the high risk group my any means. Your made me realize how imprisoning fame can be. Thank you for sharing! I so much prefer it to the car that sits next to it in the garage which cost much more. When I was consulting I used a PO box and hid my name on the company listing. The last time I was on a dating site, I got a stalker. Thanks for sharing.
My best friend and I were just talking about something similar—how being a billionaire would only be fun if you were anonymous. Both touch on this issue in different ways. Nobody deserves to be treated the way you have. Whoa, Tim. I knew you got a lot of inbound craziness, but never knew how much or to what extent.
I greatly appreciate what you do though and wanted to add one positive of you being famous to your list:. That your podcast adds fuel to the fire for millions of businesses and entrepeneurs around the country. It is nothing grand or complicated but I have learned so much from your podcast that I have been able to apply to my business and it has helped me greatly in becoming successful and making a pretty decent living as a carpenter. Listening to your podcast while working always sparks new ideas and gets me excited about my business and helps me look past the more stressful parts of running your own business.
I have zero interest in fame but a massive interest in financial rewards so I think ill take part of the advice on offer here and go for the money. Stay strong Tim. What a comprehensive virtual walk across the tight rope of fame, Tim. Such an interesting blog post! Thanks for sharing the wise words of warning. The downside to fame is something that really should be talked more about. Thank you for bringing it up! Great article thanks Tim. Indeed fame is a numbers game and those incredibly dark stories cannot be avoided at a certain number of fans.
Are the numbers of people who lose their minds, are addicted or have other type of psychological problems increasing? Leveraging the reach and visibility through the internet is obviously a new dimension of being famous and humanity is currently testing how it is getting along with it.
Most of the time I feel that exorbitant fame is unecessary. But it would be enough if people would just be happy about their idols contribution rather than using their idol as a all-in rolemodel. This type of advanced fame should become the new standard. Just live and let live and instead of aming at fame, produce value without virtue signaling and without manipulation. Each incident, even when small, took an outsize emotional toll. I had an in law that was arguably one of the most popular celebs around the time you got started.
The invasion of privacy, threats, etc became too much and they opted to disappear from the limelight. We never spoke about the issues, but I did experience some with and without them and it was truly anxiety inducing. This article helps me fully understand and appreciate what they went through, so thank you for sharing.
I have read and listened to most of your work and this is the most incredible. Thanks for putting this out, it puts a lot of what you do in perspective. Thanks for sharing, great post! Fame can often confuse people and make them think they are one of a kind and everyone else is inferior. Do not fall for this trap, it will cloud your thinking and perception of true self-love. Some celebrities deal with the stress of fame through seeking therapy. This is a possible solution if the previous steps are not working for you.
It is one of the best ways to deal with the negative effects of fame. Therapy allows you to take a deeper look inside yourself and it can make you more aware of how to tackle celebrity issues. Fame affects our lives in so many different ways, from giving us opportunities, getting special treatment, making us richer, but also attracting fake friends, causing stress, and many more complications in life.
Many of us crave attention, but after we get it, we notice that being famous is not all roses and rainbows. Celebrities who face those drawbacks, deal with fame in various ways, some of them are productive, others — not quite so.
Are you able to take the positives with the negatives? If yes, then maybe you are ready to become a celebrity. If not, then simply take a moment to be grateful for what you have in your life, having the benefits that celebrities do not have, and to enjoy where you are in the present. My very first thought when I became aware of my very own consciousness in this earthly world was So come join me on my podcast of rants on many different topics that will assist you in seeing things through a rose-colored lens and on living a life of well-being.
Skip to content. Photo by Willian B. Table of Contents. The Price of Fame. Too Much Mental Pressure. Does Fame Cause Depression? How Do You Manage Fame? Some famous people cannot find a way to deal with fame in a healthy way, but others do.
Take the Opinion of Others About You Lightly Accept that people will always have different points of view about you that you cannot control. Stay Grounded and Down to Earth Your success is not a reason to feel superior to other people. If Needed, Get Help Some celebrities deal with the stress of fame through seeking therapy. Share on twitter. Share on google. Share on facebook. Tommy P. Free Podcast. Recent Posts. Is Pride a Good or a Bad Thing?
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