Maybe you need to embrace your dark side, according to a new study that shows people with certain extreme pathological personality traits fare well in the game of love. In the study researchers focused on nearly 1, heterosexual men and women with a variety of pathological personality traits whose disorders ranged in severity from none to diagnosable.
Their results show that people with some pathological personality types, such as those considered neurotic and impulsive, had more mates and even more children than average, suggesting that such traits are not being weeded out by natural selection and actually may confer an evolutionary advantage.
For example, Corinna E. The study results show both males and females who were pathologically reckless and impetuous attracted more short-term partners than participants with average personalities. The study results also revealed that neurotic females were more likely to be in lasting relationships.
The most neurotic female participants had 34 percent more long-term mates and 73 percent more children than average despite exhibiting a trait typically associated with instability, anxiousness and insecurity, he explains.
I live in peace now. So for all you gals and guys out there, heed the advice of this post. It will change your life. We usually stick to what we are used to. So take the plunge, get out there and change yourself. You will find your perfect match! Donna Donna Merrill invites you to read.. Assessing The Past. Boy, do we have the same mother? Yes, we do tend to be the copy carbon of our mothers. As much as I so love my mom, every time I see her in me except when it comes to cooking I want to run away from myself.
If you know what I mean. Thank for your great comment, Donna. This was a very good article Sylviane. My first fiance had Mommy issues… My second serious one who the hell knows what happened there and my marriage was doomed before I even walked down the isle. Moving on… The reason I continued to attract the wrongs guys were definitely my own doing. I saw that because I was telling myself I would due to my past. I KNOW why my marriage was doomed and from there it was just downhill.
Yep, years of figuring that out right! Cool Blog Tips In November. You sound a lot like me. A life time of attracting the wrong guys, and finally figure out why. I have been trying to understand why some women attract spouses that abuse them. I believe that it is a childhood programming. We attract according to our vibrations. All on the same level of personal development plane. So as a result the low esteemed, abused girl will attract an abusive husband.
You are right that subconsciously it is an internal mind creation. I love the quote that you mentioned here. This is a vey insightful article. You have touched on some very puzzling thoughts for some people who may found themselves forever attracting Mr.
Like Adrienne, I have never had a low-esteem issue. It has a lot to do with the fact that my father had this entrepreneurial mindset even though he was brought up in a small villiage in China. Maybe that came from my granddad who travelled all the way by ship to the Phillippines to seek fortune.
He did! I have come acroos many people who have low self esteem issues. THis can impact on their personal life and business life.
You are spot on! Professional life coaches can certainly help clients to put a lot of things in perspective and re-shape how the world may be perceived differently. Bullying takes a lot of your self confidence away. You are very fortunate to have had a grandfather and father who were entrepreneurs and gave you a lot to be confident for.
That is really a blessing. They are very sensitive things to deal with. But with the age difference, I feel that younger person tend to fall for that.
The younger one looking for parent, but mature one for a spouse. Especially on Facebook. They are very sad stories. One thing which mostly amaze me that I always get to know very wonderful people. I had no clue about that. Cheers… Mayura invites you to read.. Thank you for coming and sharing your thoughts with us on this blog. Log In Sign Up. Keep me logged in on this device Forgot your username or password?
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User Info: sonichu. User Info: Xsiris. Where do you go to meet women? Switch FC:SW Xsiris posted Usually meet them at friends parties, hang out as a group, friend invites someone I've never met before etc. The question that many people wonder is "If I'm nice, then why do I keep attracting such jerks? The key to remember is that the reason why nice people attract jerks is that they are too adaptive in the beginning.
If that person had had boundaries, the problem never would have happened. Or if it did, the problem would have been fixed first. People who are selfish and controlling can only be that way if they are in relationship with someone who is adaptive.
If someone stands up to them and is honest about his or her wants and desires, then the controlling person has to learn to share or gets frustrated and goes away. Take these steps to avoid ending up in relationships that attract unhealthy people:. Issues like these are usually discovered later in a relationship where one person has adapted for a long time, and then tries to make a change.
The lesson is to be yourself from the beginning, and then you can find someone who is authentic as well. A relationship like that has mutuality and partnership.
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